How to Be Happier ♡

 
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Hi loves! NYC has been crazy busy. Work, the gym, and friends take up most of my time, and I barely have time to do anything else. I finally moved to my new apartment in the Upper East Side. Moving, decorating, and buying furniture has been a complete hassle. I also live on a six-floor walkup, so, as you can imagine, that’s been a thrill. Not really, but hey - at least it’s a natural stair master. Am I right? Yep, I thought so too.

Let us move onto my next point: my lack of blogging disappoints me. I want to start publishing blogs on a bi-weekly basis. As mentioned before in my Instagram stories, I love being able to inspire others and help them realize the power of self-development and self-love. Believe it or not, most human beings lack self-appreciation and self-love and therefore end up looking for it in other places. Yes, life is hard, and the idea of loving yourself isn’t always easy, but I promise it’s a work-in-progress that we all go through. Even though humans were designed to undergo difficult situations, getting through hard times can be easier with the support from others, so please feel free to reach out if you’re seeking tips and advice. Happy to share with you all what has worked for me and how I’m continually working on getting what I want out of this life.

I’ve been having a hard time focusing this post on a single topic. My mind has been all over the place. I constantly find myself questioning life and decisions. I’ll be honest; I don’t even know. What I do know is that for now, I will do whatever it takes to become a better version of myself.

Therefore, let’s make this post about self-development and how to approach that scary thing. I want to make it clear: we should always work on self-development and growth. This is key to a happier and healthier life. The best way to navigate through life’s ups and downs is to remain true to yourself and not wobble away from that, which involves loving yourself.

I have been alone for the past seven months and this time has allowed me to get to know myself better and realize what really matters in this universe that we were put in. I’ve been able to see peoples true colors, which most of the times does not synchronize with what you had in mind. The realization is disappointing, but necessary. Some people will only keep you in their life when it’s convenient for them. Once they realize you no longer serve a purpose, they are easy to let you go. This is huge because as hurtful as the reality may be, it only means God has a better plan for you. We don’t need people in our lives that don’t appreciate us and see our brilliance, because that’s literally draining and self-degrading. 

So, as hurtful as letting people in your life go, it's often necessary if you want to become a better version of yourself. Being alone and only having myself to rely on has been extremely difficult. Yet, it’s a bittersweet feeling, and I haven’t felt this happy in a while. For once I am confident enough to proudly say that I am worth it and deserve the best. There is absolutely nothing better than focusing on yourself and letting go of toxic people in your life.

If you are struggling with this, start by removing negative people. Friendships and relationships should be sources of joy, not pain. I promise you; this is the most critical step in the process of self-development and love. Just remember: if you want a better life and want to succeed in every aspect - focus on your growth and development. That begins with your environment. Analyze it and decide what needs to change. Try it. Challenge yourself. And begin by doing just that.

with love,

Valerie