The Power of the Mind

Our mind’s potential is underestimated. While our actions are essential and ultimately influence whether or not we achieve our goals, I strongly believe that everything begins with our thoughts. Former research has shown that actions can influence how we think, which is true. However, I also believe our thoughts and actions are clearly inextricably connected. So, which one comes first?

Based on personal experience, I believe it all begins with the mind. Moving to New York and not having a support system in the city was tough. I moved here from my hometown of Atlanta. While I love New York a million times better than Atlanta, it was hard not having my friends or family, so falling into a state of depression was easier than ever. A continuous cycle of rough patches. Mainly in the winter. Ha, seasonal depression is a thing. My life was the following: I would wake up, work for 9 to 10 hours, go back home and watch Netflix – that was my life. I stopped working out, which use to be one of my passions. I had no motivation to go out and make new friends. Literal depression. I would tell myself that I wanted to leave New York and blamed the city for my problems, as so do a lot of people.

I want to stress that your problems are nobody’s fault but your own. It’s not your boyfriends, your shitty friend’s fault or where you live . It’s yours. As simple as this is, it took me a while realize that. I knew I needed to make a change in my life and knew it started with my thoughts, which included not letting other people’s perception ruin my own. If I had friends that were having horrible experiences with the city, why let that ruin my thoughts or perceptions of my own life? If I was “depressed”, why make the decision to drop everything and leave? Was leaving going to solve my issues? Didn’t really think so. I had so many positive things to focus on and had no real reasons to be depressed. Going through a rough time doesn’t necessarily mean you’re depressed. It just means you’re living life. Literally. Life is full of rough moments, but that’s where we grow and learn the most.

I’ve been learning to appreciate the difficult moments. In fact, I’m actually thankful for them. The rough patches continue to shape me. Life doesn’t have to be hard 100 percent of the time, but it’s also not rainbows and flowers. So heck yeah for those moments where I cried. Gracias Universo. Much appreciated.

Lately, I’ve constantly been working on my mind. Mind power is huge. I’m learning how to go with the flow and not let the negative opinions of others ruin my vibe. I’m living in the capital of the world and working for my dream firm. Why focus on the negative when you can also focus on the positive? I’m not here to brag, but just want to inspire you to do the same. When I started taking responsibility for myself, I’ve been a lot happier. I started changing my thoughts, which led me to change my actions, ultimately leading to different results. I started meditating and practicing yoga. I’ve been grounding with myself and the Earth and have never felt so connected.

While we all want instant gratification and immediate results, this isn’t a thing. Self-development is a constant process that never ends. Once you solve an issue, another one comes along. If you’re struggling and think you’re going through depression, don’t look for the easy fix. I don’t recommend going on antidepressants like most of America. Start with your thoughts and your actions will follow, and vice-versa. Your mind is crucial and more powerful than you think. I’ll give you the good news, you have control over it.

 
 

How to Be Happier ♡

 
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Hi loves! NYC has been crazy busy. Work, the gym, and friends take up most of my time, and I barely have time to do anything else. I finally moved to my new apartment in the Upper East Side. Moving, decorating, and buying furniture has been a complete hassle. I also live on a six-floor walkup, so, as you can imagine, that’s been a thrill. Not really, but hey - at least it’s a natural stair master. Am I right? Yep, I thought so too.

Let us move onto my next point: my lack of blogging disappoints me. I want to start publishing blogs on a bi-weekly basis. As mentioned before in my Instagram stories, I love being able to inspire others and help them realize the power of self-development and self-love. Believe it or not, most human beings lack self-appreciation and self-love and therefore end up looking for it in other places. Yes, life is hard, and the idea of loving yourself isn’t always easy, but I promise it’s a work-in-progress that we all go through. Even though humans were designed to undergo difficult situations, getting through hard times can be easier with the support from others, so please feel free to reach out if you’re seeking tips and advice. Happy to share with you all what has worked for me and how I’m continually working on getting what I want out of this life.

I’ve been having a hard time focusing this post on a single topic. My mind has been all over the place. I constantly find myself questioning life and decisions. I’ll be honest; I don’t even know. What I do know is that for now, I will do whatever it takes to become a better version of myself.

Therefore, let’s make this post about self-development and how to approach that scary thing. I want to make it clear: we should always work on self-development and growth. This is key to a happier and healthier life. The best way to navigate through life’s ups and downs is to remain true to yourself and not wobble away from that, which involves loving yourself.

I have been alone for the past seven months and this time has allowed me to get to know myself better and realize what really matters in this universe that we were put in. I’ve been able to see peoples true colors, which most of the times does not synchronize with what you had in mind. The realization is disappointing, but necessary. Some people will only keep you in their life when it’s convenient for them. Once they realize you no longer serve a purpose, they are easy to let you go. This is huge because as hurtful as the reality may be, it only means God has a better plan for you. We don’t need people in our lives that don’t appreciate us and see our brilliance, because that’s literally draining and self-degrading. 

So, as hurtful as letting people in your life go, it's often necessary if you want to become a better version of yourself. Being alone and only having myself to rely on has been extremely difficult. Yet, it’s a bittersweet feeling, and I haven’t felt this happy in a while. For once I am confident enough to proudly say that I am worth it and deserve the best. There is absolutely nothing better than focusing on yourself and letting go of toxic people in your life.

If you are struggling with this, start by removing negative people. Friendships and relationships should be sources of joy, not pain. I promise you; this is the most critical step in the process of self-development and love. Just remember: if you want a better life and want to succeed in every aspect - focus on your growth and development. That begins with your environment. Analyze it and decide what needs to change. Try it. Challenge yourself. And begin by doing just that.

with love,

Valerie